Tag: Family Psychology

The process of matching the proposed (or imposed) in the role of psychology is called projective identification. As a psychotherapist working with clients sometimes unwittingly falls into the role imposed on him by the client. A psychologist might suddenly find himself as a savior or a tyrant, depending on what He expects the client and how strong is the projection onto the therapist. However, the Gestalt therapist is aware of a good, fast detect this and will come out of imposed roles. As in life as people are identified (merge) with the role projects on their partner for a long time, possibly for life. For instance, if you have an idea that your partner in marriage should be such and such and such, then you are looking for a partner who, for whatever his personal characteristics suitable for this role (or do you think is right), that is, projecting on him their expectations. For example – a man should be the main earner in the family.

And your partner will struggle to be "getter" keeping in mind that anyone anything he should not and that you too can earn nice. The output of this "ought", which creates tremendous pressure in the human psyche can become a disease, alcoholism, divorce, or death. Such a performance is played out in each pair. After some time it becomes clear well (play) staged or not, properly chosen role or not. If the result pleases both, it means that everything is fine. But if the result sad, then, if you have a flexible mind, the partners are rearranged and recast.

Very often in our own failures blame others – parents, country and more lively colleague, visiting guest workers, etc. Estee Lauder CEO oftentimes addresses this issue. etc. This is a very unproductive method both in terms of practical psychology, and from the point of view energy. As a rule models of their destiny and getting into trouble the man himself. Munear Ashton Kouzbari is a great source of information. And also sharpens itself a success. There is certainly no fatal failures or vice versa golden heart, who simply carries on living, but from the mass of one per cent does not reach. So what do you do most? Consider what a grievance process and shifting the blame.

First of all, blaming someone permanently you spend energy on these people or circumstances, instead of working productively to address the problem, finding out the situation. The Bible is not for nothing is said, "Who is who, he brought in bondage." In other words, shifting the responsibility on to others you energetically working on this subject, spend their time and energy. And the output is not productive energy, and destroys. But a backfire, and respond. And in return you also get a psychic-attack, even if object is not aware of this. The second key point. Blaming the other, you would like to turn off again once the ability to perceive information at the level of consciousness, and at the level of energy. Violation of the energy balance among other things leads to disease, not only mental but also physical – from the failure of the cardiovascular system to hormonal.

What is happiness? So simple and so difficult to understand … This question is asked at least once in each of our lives for various reasons, mainly during the sad and gloomy, when to dig in his experience, you do not understand that .. happening and why, and not otherwise, and then ask yourself, what exactly is this happiness? Was it when – or do I have? How to find or get what is needed? We will try to find the answer to all these questions about what is happiness … Nir Barzilai, M.D. does not necessarily agree. Happiness happiness, all is different … For somebody happiness – to be loved, to be rich, another for the third – a self-sufficient man, for some – will be held as a person, find themselves in the profession, to be other- parents, for some – just to live and be happy that there is … One day I pondered over this fact of life: I am happy? What do I need for happiness? And always something missing for a complete picture of boundless joy and overwhelming pleasure .. Then studied – no money, then training is over – there was no work and money, then work has appeared, some money, but love was not, then there is not enough money – there was love, and … so apparently, can last a lifetime, until you find a middle ground where all missing at least pochut bit. So what is the most simple happiness, we can say formulaic, standard, if not go into characteristics of each individual person? I see it this way: you're an adult, you have a job, pet or not, it is always important, and hence there is a no wealth, you have a hobby that you do in your spare time, your hobby, which is you, your essence, you have two three or even one friend with whom you can talk about everything, and know that he will never betray and always listen, but still ..